I knew what she was going to say before she started talking. I'd noticed her noticing my baby boy for the last 10 minutes. She had the same envious look on her face that I'm sure I had on mine. I had been watching her quiet, demure and gentle two year old for the same amount of time. She'd been watching my boisterous, outgoing, curious, chatty, (exceptionally handsome) little boy as he climbed and explored at the Children's Museum as he talk, talk, talked his way around the room.
But there's another reason I knew her question and it's because I had been in her shoes watching other two year olds and comparing. The first time around is always hard, but it's harder when you have the nagging feeling that something isn't quite measuring up.
I watched this mom ask Demure Daughter a question and get no response. Demure Daughter didn't even register that she'd heard her mama, she kept playing sweetly as Concerned Mama inched closer to me and Dutch.
I knew what she would say and I had my response ready to go, right on the tip of my tongue. I put a smile on my face and broke the ice "Your daughter is just beautiful," I told Concerned Mama, but the look of concern stayed put. "How old is she?" I knew she'd tell me about the same age as Dutch. And in the same breath she said "I'm so worried. Mine doesn't talk. Like at all."
It's hard to remember a time that Clementine was ever quiet--but she was. Even after she'd caught up with her peers in the height/weight trajectories, there was one worrisome reminder of her prematurity. She was left with a fairly significant speech delay.
I worried about it and we sought advice and we voiced concerns and then I worried a little bit more for good measure. After more than a year, our concerns were taken seriously by an actual professional. Clementine received Speech and Language services for nearly 2 years. By the time she entered Kindergarten, those delays were nearly forgotten.
And so I said to Concerned Mama what I had wanted to hear myself and now know to be true: "It's all going to turn out ok. You'll see."
Concerned Mama continued to watch Dutch chat--to me, to Demure Daughter, to himself--and I told her to always follow up with her instincts but not to let these get in the way of enjoying time with D.D.
We chatted a bit more and then they got ready to leave. "Don't worry!" I urged. "It really will turn out in the end." I said it with confidence and authority because we've been there and come through to the other side. I hope she bought my story.
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| For good measure, a picture of Clementine--almost 3 |